Managing your career is already hard enough. Throw a relationship into the mix and you start pulling out your hairs because you feel stressed already. It sounds really tempting to skip work and go on a fun filled date with your beau but on the other hand, you can’t sacrifice your career goals simply because you want a strong relationship with your man. The good news is that you are not the only woman who’s been in such a situation. Even better news is that it’s entirely possible to manage your career and your love life.
Quick fact: People in successful relationships make more money, are healthier, live longer and get more promotions than single people do.
So how exactly can you balance your relationship and your career without compromising any of them?
Get your priorities in order
Do you find yourself putting more weight on one aspect of your life than the other? It happens and that’s just how life is but you can do something to change the situation. As a career woman, you can’t let your co-workers or your boss think that you don’t care about your job. On the other hand, you don’t want your beau to think that you care more about your job than you care about him. So how do you handle the situation?
Simply show your beau and your co-workers that they are a significant part of your life. When they feel they are valuable to you, neither one of them will feel like you are prioritizing one over the other.
Keep your job and your love life separate
Don’t bring your relationship issues to your work place. If you had a huge argument with your beau last night or on your way to work, don’t unleash your rage and negative emotions on your co-workers. Spend your day at work being productive. Same case applies when you are home with your beau. Don’t bring your work home. Put away your iPad and stop checking your work emails all the time.
Manage your time
If you work long hours, this can negatively affect your relationship. So you can plan a weekend getaway with your man. Make sure you plan it a week before so that he has ample time to prepare. Besides, going away for the weekend with your man will not only strengthen your relationship but it will leave you energized and eager to get back to your job. Show your man that even though you are devoted to your professional life, you are similarly devoted to your relationship with him.
Stay in touch
Just because you have a job doesn’t mean you can’t text or call your man the entire day. You can take a five minute break and send him a short private message on his phone. You can even write on his Facebook wall or give him a call. Just let him know that even though you are busy at work, you are still thinking about him. Don’t engage him in a long chat. Remember you are at work and you should stay productive. Don’t start texting him after every hour either.
Know when it’s time to cut your losses
You should really analyze just how much time you are investing in your career and in your relationship. You may be career oriented and all but if it’s interfering with your relationship and the things you love doing, then maybe it’s time you re-evaluated your career. Do you have to work long hours to make ends meet? Maybe it’s time you considered looking for a better paying job or asking for a pay increase.
On the other hand, if your man is interfering with your career goals or he is constantly complaining that you don’t spend enough time with him, then it may be time to quit the relationship. This is why it is always important to find a person who has the same ambition as you; a guy who understands that your career is just as important to you as he is.
Striking a balance between your love life and your career can be very tricky but it’s not impossible. Sometimes you might go off track and find yourself focusing more on one thing than the other. Just ensure that you assess your life goals on a regular basis and check to see whether everything is going according to plan. written by Jackie K.